Hi! I used to struggle with this VERY thing on a daily basis. As someone who’s extremely independent and want’s things done a specific way…it’s HARD to accept help. Then, you find that you take on too much, and when people offer to help, it’s nearly too late because you’ve dedicated yourself to do something to the VERY END anyway. Or worse, you start directing your helpers on the best way to help you.

The good thing is, it takes only 30 days to make or break ANY habit. This little motto can be applied here too. For the next 30 days, accept ALL FORMS of help when it is being offered to you. Don’t say anything but, “Thanks.” or “Thanks for lending a hand, I appreciate it…” BUT always make your gracious helper aware of HOW they can help with the next phrase. So, the sentence becomes “Thanks for lending a hand Suzy, I really appreciate it. Okay, what I need the most help with is (insert task here), do you think we can have that done by (day or time here)???”

Done! Simply saying thank you and expressing HOW I need help has helped me become less stressed and even make new friends at work. I started the 30 day challenge over 8 months ago and it has REALLY helped me. BEST OF LUCK, I hope it serves you well too! :)

I think that you will beat your cancer if you focus on balance. I am a family doctor, now exploring the realms of the alternative, using ozone, and I met a survivor of the same disease you have and is alive ten years after the fatal prognosis, you can fight, and you can win:D