redbandita Supercow al rescate!!!!!!

create a place in memory of Rose Tenace (read all 9 entries…)
Rose Violet Tenace... 22 months ago

...was a young lady I befriended in Amsterdam in 2001.
She was born in Australia, where she unwillingly returned to in 2002, and where she tragically took her own life on April 30th 2003.
It’s been nearly 5 years, since, and her life (the short time I got to know her) and her death still touch and move me.
I wanted to create this goal ever since I joined 43things nearly three years ago, but I never had the guts to actually do it.
I sometimes find myself googling her name, just to see if anyone else on this planet found her significant enough to post about her. I seem to be the only one so far, so here goes.
I will scan the few pictures of her I own and post them here, or on my facebook page and/or my flickr.
Just writing this makes me sigh and wonder about all the opportunities she missed out on because of her decision to end her earthly existence.
This is the first person I personally knew who committed suicide, and hopefully the last, as well.
I loved her so very dearly.

Jan 27, 2008, 12:17PM PST | 4 cheers


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Absnasm is so freaking happy!

That's such a sad story.

But what a lovely thing to do. You’re a great friend, V <3

Jan 27, 2008, 12:35PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

redbandita Supercow al rescate!!!!!!

Thanks for saying that.

The strange thing is that until I wrote and posted this entry last evening, I felt I was OK about it, but now I have started thinking about it again, I feel the pain returning. I will keep posting memories and such here, as I feel it’s the outlet I need and I have been lacking.

Jan 28, 2008, 01:39AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Absnasm is so freaking happy!

You're probably right.

I think this will be cathartic for you. There’s a fine line between remembrance and wallowing, but in this case I think it will be helpful for you to remember all the different facets of Rose that you loved, and celebrate her. I remember you talking about her when we met, and it was clear to me then that you still dearly love her. It’s lovely that you still do, and that you want to share it with your friends here.

Jan 28, 2008, 01:12PM PST | Respond to this 2 cheers

evenstar42 sees brighter days ahead

((((hugs))))

You’ve mentioned Rose before and how much her death affected you. I’m glad you’re making time and space to remember her. No matter how long it’s been, something like this is always significant, isn’t it? Don’t be surprised or worried that remembering her is bringing back some of the hurt even after this long; grief plays by its own rules and takes no notice of the calendar.

Sending you lots of love and hugs, my dear.

Jan 28, 2008, 02:20AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

redbandita Supercow al rescate!!!!!!

Thanks, eve42!

Yeah, I’ve been carefully dropping a line here and there about her, but never really grabbed the bull by the horns to properly write about her.
This is the first time I am truely grieving over somebody. It’s quite a ride in itself. You never reflect that much over people who are still around.

Jan 30, 2008, 03:40AM PST | Respond to this 1 cheer

catherine's daughter hopes all will enjoy the Christmas season.

Rose is beautiful

and by writing about her you keep her memory alive in your heart. I believe, and have personally experienced, that expressing your grief is the way to begin to heal.

Evenstar42 got it absolutely right about grief. I found this verse after my son died and found it to be true. It goes like this:

Grief

You don’t get over it
You just get through it
You don’t get by it
Because you can’t get around it
It doesn’t “get better”
It just gets different
Every day ……
Grief puts on a new face.

I am sorry for your loss and wish you peace.

May 21, 2008, 08:43PM PDT | Respond to this


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