It is awful to realize over time that a person you love and admire doesn’t want you in their life. No matter how much other good love, education and self-esteem you have, expect that loss to continually take its toll on you.

Most people live with this circumstance. And it is an epic and never ending struggle for many to find other loves and pursuits to engage in.

I write this to encourage you. To let you know you are not alone in this type of struggle. And to recommend you don’t deny your feelings. You should not feel ashamed or guilty for your losses and your hurting. It will not help to be dishonest with yourself about them. If they hurt, admit they hurt. And try to find other passions and good things to involve yourself in. Those other passions will not reduce your losses, but they will give you other positive feedback patterns to let you know if you are doing well for other people and other purposes.