I could get better at expressing my feelings. Today for instance, I picked up my dogs from my ex, who has watched them since yesterday. I`m really grateful to him for helping out. But I had very specifically told him not to let Agatha off leash at all, because she could get seriously hurt. And I explained that her pain episodes comes a day or two after she has had too much exercise or done sudden movements, so if she seems ok at the time, that doesn`t mean she`s ok. Then today I asked what they had been doing, and he said he had taken them to his parents house, and Agatha had been on several walks off leash, and spent a lot of time playing off leash in the garden. Argh!
Also,he had asked to borrow my car, and I said he could. But right before that, the car started making really loud noises, that doesn`t sound good. He`s much better with cars than me, so I gave him the keys and said he could have a look at it if he wanted, and if he found out what it was and that it wasn`t something serious, he could drive it, but if he didn`t figure it out, I didn`t want him to drive the car much. Today, I found out that he had no clue what the noise is, but he had driven the car to his parents house anyway, which is an hour of driving outside Oslo. What??

I wish I could express very clearly both that I so much appreciate his help with the dogs, but that I also that I wish he would listen to what I say to him and not risk my dogs health and risk serious damage to my car without asking me. Instead, I said vaguely thank you for watching the dogs, and just as vague things like “You drove my car all the way there? Hm, I`m worried about that noise”. Sigh. And I probably just seemed very grumpy.
There is clearly something wrong with my car, and he migh have made it worse now. And worse, Agatha could get awful pain episodes on tuesday, which is the first day she`s spending with the dogsitters friend, who offered to watch them this week. The dogsitters friend doesn`t know Agatha, and so it will be much harder for her to recognise changes in behaviour in Agatha that is a sign there`s a pain episode coming, and Agatha will feel less safe and comforted with her if it happens, since she`s a total stranger. Sigh. Crap.