my relationship was in meltdown. I felt I needed to leave and did indeed do that for a while, but we got back together. Now, a few months later, I am thinking more about what needs are met by this situation and whether it needs to change. However, I want to operate from a position of strength, not reactive hysteria, so need to think carefully and speak to someone outside the whole thing to get another perspective. Just to make sure what I’m feeling and what is happening aren’t completely different to each other.