before moving out to the countryside; there were often arguments on a Californian level there – I saw one guy attack another with a hammer and another one chase somebody and attack them with a baseball bat for “disrespecting” their space or whatever. So you’re right – perhaps a li’l politeness goes a long way! I think the notion of deference and politeness is fading fast in the English/British psyche in favour of a “I want it now” approach which regards other people as obstacles to be eliminated as fast as possible.

For me personally, it’s more about not caving in every time I’m in conflict, and actually holding my ground when required.