I have come to realize that I am nice to people and do things for people many times as a way to control them or a situation. It’s not a conscious thing but after I do somthing for someone else I realize that I’m so giving because I think if I do something nice for them then they will “owe” me. They will have to be nice to me, or be my friend, or spend time with me or whatever. But, I do like doing nice things for people too. I feel like this having to be nice all the time is something that is so deeply ingrained in me. I can hardly imagine saying no to someone who asks me to do a favor for them. Especially if it’s someone I really care about. I am JUST now figuring all of this out. I am going to have to somehow figure out where the line is between doing nice things for the right reasons and the wrong reasons.