Darkmusic is learning Italian

Be less shy (read all 4 entries…)
Progress 21 months ago

I talked to strangers today, wow. I think having a dog helps. I took my dog for a long walk today and the dog got lots of attention, so I was able to use that to spark conversation. I just pretended that I wasn’t shy, and blocked those thoughts out of my head. And it really helped. I saw that people were smiling, happy, and really did want to talk to me. That was a big confidence-booster for me. And I’m very shy, so this is a big deal for me. I have trouble even looking at people.

I want this success to continue for me in the days/weeks to come, and I know that I need to mentally keep up the effort in order for this to work. I know this is all about changing the way I think. I don’t want to slip back and close up like I have so many times before. This is by no means over yet. I’m just a little bit closer now to overcoming my shyness.

Mar 23, 2008, 12:36AM PDT | 3 cheers


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13etty

wonderful!!!

Keep up the progress!!! I get like that too sometimes…one of these days I’m going to make eye contact with a guy that catches my eye and hold his gaze hahaha…I usually feel myself blush all over when any guy looks back at me…so embarrassing!!!

Wella, what I do when I actually do get a conversation going is ask the person about their scars or tattoos…if they have any of course…hahaha…I dunno…I like hearing other people talk rather than myself…I come off as being shy or stuck up…all in all…keep up with your newfound technique…I’m sure many people will also take the time out to learn about you too so never beat yourself up too much about it…shyness can also be a sexy thing :)

Mar 27, 2008, 04:01PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Darkmusic is learning Italian

Thanks!! I know exactly what you mean with making eye contact. It’s so hard. I feel like if someone sees me looking at them, they’ll think I’m staring, so I look away. One day I’ll get over this, I just don’t know when!

I hear what you’re saying about getting other people to talk. I find if you ask questions about them, they get more interested in having a conversation.

And you’re right, I have to learn to accept that being a little shy is OK. I don’t have to be all outgoing all the time.

Apr 13, 2008, 11:10PM PDT | Respond to this

zephyr_gurl

i wish i could do what you did

Apr 02, 2008, 01:23AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Darkmusic is learning Italian

You can do it…you just have to be spontaneous, throw yourself into social situations. Push your fear aside, and once you start talking to more people, you’ll realize that people will want to talk to you, and learn more about you.

Apr 13, 2008, 10:53PM PDT | Respond to this


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