I was scared to death of being a dad. SCARED TO DEATH.

I was scared of the responsibility and and the end of my own youth. You see, we males are selfish and the addition of another person in “our” lives would take away from the relationship I had with my wife.

In the end, I was 38 years old when our son was born and 40 when our daughter was born.

Being a dad is without a doubt the best thing that ever happened to me. Our kids are both teenagers now and I could not imagine my life without them. I have watched the grow from tiny helpless creatures into thinking reasoning beings that I am proud of. Every day (EVERY DAY) has been new challenge and a new joy.

Give your husband some space and DO NOT NAG about this.

Maybe he had a lousy relationship with his father and that has not yet been resolved. Or, maybe he had a great relationship: if so, you can talk about that and get him to share his relationship with his dad.

I am sure this will work out over time. Good luck.