It’s what you focus on. You can criticize a person about all of the things you don’t like about them, and after a while it becomes easy to think of a long list of things. That is pretty negative.

You could try to be more positive and compliment the person and say the things you like, but that may be more difficult since you’d have to admit that you like something about somebody else.

It is safer emotionally to insult them, but that is self-destructive; it hurts you as much as it does them. It just makes you that much more insecure and worry about what other people think.

Be more positive and you will feel better about yourself and you won’t need to insult or criticize others to build yourself up.

Hope this helps,

Eric :)