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stop being insecure and jealous when in a relationship
Untitled 5 months ago

i wish i could change my insecurities, ive been fucked over by ex’s so many times and i was stupid enough to take them back, the girl that im with now i absolutely adore, she is amazing, she is the most beautiful girl in the world, she actually cares about me im pretty sure and always wants to know whats on my mind and i love it, im pretty syre she wouldnt hurt me but i always get nervous when she talks to certain people because i cant trust them, there are alot of people who like her and they try to get her weather she sees it or not and i usually get pissed off thanks to my jealousy, i just want to overcome it, im just so afraid to lose her, she is my everything and i cant lose that



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That’s awesome that you found that someone dude. In my experience, my only advice is dont try to block out the jealousy inside of you, just accept that as natural feelings. Theres nothing wrong with that. Who wouldn’t get insecure if they were at risk of losing someone they cared about? Feelings are what they are—momentary states of emotion that eventually pass. As long as you keep your composure in those situations, that is the most important thing.

That said, if she’s obviously flirting with some dude or being a flake, you have absolutely every right to say something. Trust yourself and your feelings, even if you know its going to cause disagreements. Don’t ever be afraid of losing her, that only causes you to modify your behavior and clouds your judgment. You end up becoming a pushover in the relationship in order to keep it going, which is exactly what you don’t want to happen.

Relationships succeed not based on how well you get along with someone, but how you deal with them when you don’t get along. In the long run, as much as they may talk about their independence and ambition, women are looking for STABILITY. This means be who you are, and don’t change for them, regardless of whether that pisses them off or not. Love yourself first, and the rest will fall into place.

Nice response

I read dicksonclark’s entry and thought I had wrote it myself. I am glad you did a repost on it. The only thing about it, is that when you I sit down logically I can agree with everything you wrote. But, when you are in the moment and those thoughts are running through your head it becomes increasingly hard to stop. I don’t know how to do it either. It’s like a nonstop influx of emotion. I totally manifest and over analyze everything when it comes to my wife. But it only started about 2 months ago and I am not sure why really. The other things that sucks for me is that I am in the military. I have to leave for four months really soon and if I leave with these thoughts like this I don’t know if I will make it.

have faith

dude, I feel you 100%. My experience, while I didn’t have a wife has been this:

Emotions are a powerful thing, and they really can control your thinking and decision making sometimes. But you just have to faith and trust that your’e going to be ok. If things fall apart, obviously it will suck, probably for a long time. If I were in that position, I know I would be messed up for awhile. You should be grieving, because there’s no other rationale way to accept something that was such a big part of your life is now gone. But the important thing to remember is that you’ll be able to move on eventually. You might not ever get over someone you loved in the past, but you can still go out and find someone new to love you.

Don’t be afraid and think that you can’t go out and do that. I mean sure it might take awhile to get back into the game, but you’ll get there eventually.

The other thing I would say, which is most important is love yourself FIRST. Do the things you love doing without your significant other. hang out with your friends. enjoy your hobbies, etc. those are things you can always fall back on when women aren’t around.

It’s safe to say that I know exactly how you feel. But you should understand that sometimes you just need to let things be as good as they are. If she wanted to be with those other people, she would, but she isn’t and she’s completely yours. Seems like she loves ya (: so let her! And let yourself be happy!

If they’re not caring enough of you to stay faithful well then, honestly, they’re not worth you anyways.

Be the best person and signifigant other as you can be. Being constantly worried about someone being stolen can only lead to more negative feelings about yourself and in the relationship.

Love all you can, have fun and know that regardless there is someone out there for everyone.


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