Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

Organize & follow through with a fundraiser to make a significant donation to my friend & manicurist. (read all 32 entries…)
Dee's Memorial Service was today 14 months ago

and everyone came to my house afterwards for sandwiches etc. Dee’s Mom didn’t want alcohol there which I was O.K. with, it didn’t matter to me one way or another, so I only had soda and water available, but of course people brought beer and were slammin’ them right in front of Dee’s Mom.

Then came the real fun stuff . . . gossiping, back stabbing, one uping each other (who was a better friend, who took better care of her while she was sick, blah blah blah) and of course the big one . . . which greedy vulture deserves to have what of Dee’s stuff. People where lobbying Dee’s Mom like crazy. I was so not believing this, yet I was seeing it!!!

So today I had 43+ assholes at my house.

I miss Dee.

P.S. the memorial service was actually very very nice.



Comments:

Flirt thinks 43T is in a time warp!

Good grief!

Since when is it acceptable to take alcohol to someone else’s home and drink it without being expressly invited to. As for all the other stuff, I have no comment, but I’m sure you can guess what I’m thinking.

(((HIPPIECHICK)))

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Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

I'm just glad it's over . . .

but it is still buggging me. I want to get past it. I needed to vent here on 43t. I have always tried to keep my home a peaceful environment for everyone. Dee always said that it was. She loved to just come and sit. She said it was a calming place (my home), but it sure didn’t feel like it yesterday.

I think that the people who were going on about what a “good friend” they were and “how much they did” were the people who were feeling guilty because they “weren’t” They needed to feel better about themselves, but they made everyone else feel worse. Unfortunately there were a whole lot of them.

Breathe deeply Hippiechick . . .

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Adar is getting stuff DONE!

Very insightful, HC...

Funerals and weddings bring out the worst and the best in people. Sounds like it brought out the best in you and Mr. HippieChick, and the worst in too many of the guests.

You never have to have any of those people in your house again.

As for the greedy behavior, that is, sadly, something that happens too often at funerals. That’s one reason it is a very good idea to put preferences about stuff with any value IN WRITING even if we plan to live for 40 more years. Takes tremendous pressure off the loved ones who are left behind.

I’m glad that part of the funeral is over. Now the people who really loved Dee can get on with the serious business of grief, you included.

sierrak About to embark on a "painting" spree

Oh My Gosh....

Hard to believe how crass some people can be. Bless you for hosting the luncheone after the memorial.

Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

If I hadn't been there . . .

I would never have believed it myself . . .

Pajodama is enjoying her days off :D

(((HippieChick)))

RuthG pulling down overgrown ivy

So sorry.

It’s hard to fathom that “mourners” would behave that way.

I am sure your gracious hosting & caring blessed Dee’s mother, though.

Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

I sure hope so . . .

I really tried to take some of the stress off of her.

She has a big job ahead of her. Dee had a townhouse and a business that she needs to deal with and poor Dee was a major “PACK RAT”!!! That girl saved EVERYTHING!!! Dee’s mom needs to be able to think and how can you think when you have all these assholes salivating at your door? I swear Ruth, one of the dip shits in Dee’s shop (a guy who rents a space there) was overheard telling one of his clients that they were going to “give him” her shop. uhm yeah .. sure . . .

Dee owns a salon with hair and nail stations and a facial room. She did hair, manicures, pedicures and facials. So she had all of her stations and products and then she rented space to others who work in her shop. It is a pretty nice business. She had named it “Beyond the Mirror” It was a dream of hers to own her own business and stop renting space from other shops and she finally achieved that about 4 years ago right around the time she turned 40.

I am rambling . . . sorry. I miss my friend.

CropTillDawn~ Summertime R&R on the Beach.

I'm sure Dee's Mom

Appreciates what you did for her in the past and for her today Sweetheart.
I was just thinking about the two of you when I came across the LOL Cat I made up, when you were making Tamales.
Take Care,
XOXO,
Dawn

Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

JJ never got any tamales . . .

he found out there was no tuna in them . . . he wasn’t interested in beef tamales.

Poor JJ . . .

CropTillDawn~ Summertime R&R on the Beach.

He just wanted to be

supervisor cat, huh.

I’m glad you got a chance to spend more time with Snickerdoodle. He is a fun little guy.

Take Care, Honey.

This kind of crass, sick, selfish shit just frosts my ass!

Our society is not only becoming more stupid, it’s becoming less civilized as well.

It’s sad and it’s embarrassing.

I’m so sorry, Hipster. It’s bad enough to have a good friend die without having to suffer assholes in the bargain.

I'm so Sorry

I agree with Unc. I can’t imagine the pain of saying goodbye to your friend and having to watch and listen to all of that. It just makes my stomach hurt to think of it. I’m glad her memorial service was nice. I’m just so sorry that you had to deal with all of those people acting the way they did.

((((((HippieChick))))))

((((((Hippiechick)))))))))

I’m so sorry you and Dee’s mum had to go through that horrible situation:(
Often it seems funerals either bring out the best in people, of the worst. The worst is almost always ugly.
None of what happened though, in anyway diminishes all that you did for Dee and her family. And I’m sure Dee’s mum appreciates all the strain you took off her today.
My heart goes out to her – she still has much to face and deal with.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))))
love gemmword

tknight is t'done t'day

My heartfelt condolances...

And a question for you…

Where was Mr. Hippiechick while all this was going on?

Sounds like some ‘guests’ need to taste the steel of a nice sword…

Two wrongs do not make a right however.

(((((((HippieChick))))))))

Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

Mr Hippiechick was just as stunned

as I was . . .

He spent his time trying to head people off at the pass so to speak. He was trying to keep people entertained and away from Dee’s Mom as much as he could. Unfortunately for him however, he was also dealing with Dee’s best friend who was and I imagine will continue to be for a very long time, in an astronomical amount of pain . . there was serious weeping and wailing and nashing of teeth coming from her, which is unfortunate as he doesn’t deal well with outward displays of emotion. Mr. Hippiechick has trying his best to console her in the best way he knew how (which was kind of amusing to me)

At one point he asked her if she wanted to use his punching bag and she took him up on it. I think it actually helped calm her down.

Dee was her best friend in the entire world and probably always will be. Myth actually did the most for Dee of all Dee’s friends. She sat with Dee through all her Chemo treatments which were quite lengthy as well as all her supplemental treatments and doctors appointments. Anything I did paled in comparison to what Myth did for her.

So Mr. Hippiechick was pretty busy, but he too was astounded by all the petty crap that went on. Gemmword is right . . . funerals do bring out the worst in people.

I was stunned silent

HC,

I’ve been silent on this thread until now, however I have been following every word and deed. I am dreadfully sorry that you had to endure this kind of behavior.

Sometimes, I feel so despairing when I see the world reacting all around me in ways I wouldn’t dream of behaving. It makes me feel uncentered and unclean, just by my mere proximity.

I have seen this sort of thing go on before, the vultures circle before the body is cold. It made me revulsed to my core. Even my former church had approached me to ensure that they were included in my estate plans. I was so offended, I didn’t even know how to dignify their inquiry with an answer!

I’m so sorry that you and your grief have to further endure this unbridled greed. I don’t know what else to say….

Jessy is hiding from her cat.

(((Hippiechick)))

Let me get this straight. At the gathering after Dee’s memorial service, where people get the opportunity to speak with Dee’s mom, offer condolences, and share some of their memories of Dee, they are lobbying her for Dee’s stuff?

I am so sorry. Some people just should not be let out of their cages.

Ruth is right, though. What you did blessed Dee’s memory and those who truly loved her.

Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

Overheard on "The Hippiechick Back Patio" last night . . .

Mr. Hippiechick: I still can’t believe the nerve of those people ...

Mrs. Hippiechick: Well, try as they might, “I” actiually have the best that Dee ever had to offer.

Mr. Hippiechick: Really? What’s that?

Mrs. Hippiechick: You!

Mr. Hippiechick just grins that kinda goofy grin that he gets sometimes and takes another swig of his pepsi . . .

Jessy is hiding from her cat.

and I am sure that if any

of those vultures try to get Mr. Hippiechick, Mrs. Hippiechick will show them the door!

Hippie♥Chick is a Spiritual Tree Hugging Romantic

The "Whoop Ass"

that I would break out . . .


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