wellonheels is. She just is.

Love my Husband
And sometimes it's really difficult... 19 months ago

I read somewhere that we fall in love with someone because of they way they make us feel when we’re with them. Since we’ve been married, my husband seems to bring out the worst in me, and much of the time makes me feel pretty crappy. I know he says what he does because he wants me to be a better person, so I try not to take it too personally, and work to change these small things. I want to feel better so I’m going to work on doing what will make him happier to see if it makes me feel better when I’m with him. It’s definitely worth a try.

May 21, 2008, 08:11AM PDT | 1 cheer


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Lis reflecting and making better choices in life.

Take a peek and see...

Wish I had a cheer left to “cheer” you. I wonder often why we change when we get married? It seems with many of us, our spouses change so much that we’re left feeling lonely, unhappy, sad, depressed, unfulfilled, undesirable…but it may be ourselves that have changed the most and not our spouses. Anyways, I like your idea of trying to have him feel loved and happier in the hopes of changing his attitude and behavior towards you and your marriage.

My marriage is in a crisis mode these days and I have been reading plenty of “marriage books”. One that I think you may find helpful in your quest of having your husband happier and feel loved is, FOR WOMEN ONLY by Shanti Feldham . This book really opened my eyes to my husbands needs. She also has a companion book FOR MEN ONLY for the husbands to read as well.

Take a peek and see if this maybe helpful to you. I wish we all would pursue our spouses like we did when we were dating… :)

May 21, 2008, 07:54PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

wellonheels is. She just is.

Wow, thanks!

I’m definitely a reader and welcome any help on this. Thanks for the note—and I’ll definitely get the book. I just wish my husband liked to read, because I’d get that one for him too… but he’d just use it as a coaster.
I appreciate the support—it means a lot to hear I’m not alone. I just hope my husband appreciates what I try to do – he doesn’t appreciate much.

May 22, 2008, 04:50AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Lis reflecting and making better choices in life.

Read it to him in bed.

Your welcome. The book really opened my eyes in how “I” was not meeting my husband’s needs and I had it all wrong.

Shanti’s book has brought my husband and I to a place in our relationship of respect, putting the other’s needs before our own and new understanding of honoring your spouse. I loved it.

Yes, God has given us a miracle to work on the possibility of restoring our marriage, Shanti’s book has given me the tools on how. Let me know if you read it, Lis.

May 22, 2008, 11:46AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

wellonheels is. She just is.

He'll snore...

I can read it to him in bed, but he’ll fall asleep and snore the whole time. Unless, of course, I can convince him he WANTS to hear what it has to say. I’ll work on that when I read the other one and if it changes anything. I’m ordering it from Amazon.com tomorrow.

May 22, 2008, 12:00PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

wellonheels is. She just is.

Got the book --

and can’t wait to read it. I’ll be starting it this weekend. I’ll let you know what comes out of it!

May 28, 2008, 07:05AM PDT | Respond to this

sherica1980

wellonheels i just wanted to let u know that i am praying for u and ur marriage. i am not sure if ur a christian but i pray that God will touch ur husbands heart so that he will know what ur feeling. i have been married 8 years and have a very close relationship with my husband that took a lot of work. you have to express how u feel to ur husband and let him know that he’s hurting u. i really hope the books help and i am keeping u in my thoughts because i really want to see u succeed! God Bless u!

Jun 04, 2008, 08:13PM PDT | Respond to this

bex1980 is trying to study

Just wishing you the best.
You are the main person who will determine how happy you are, in or out of any relationship.

Oct 25, 2008, 02:09PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer


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