You can still love her, but unconditional love is not needing anything from her. So whether or not she’s around is not the point. You always have her interests and needs at heart, not yours. That’s the point of unconditional love, isn’t it? I mean if you phone her up that’s your need. If she phones you and you make yourself unavailable, that’s also your need.

Unconditional love is to not have needs or expectations from the object of your love. Let her go. That’s all you have to do. Not send her away, just let her go.

And for yourself, you can take the focus off this person and put it somewhere else. There will be someone else for you down the track, you are still young. Whereas at my age, I wonder if that’s likely although i theory, there should be just as much chance too.

Romantic love is selfish. Its not bad though. If your feelings are reciprocated, there shouldn’t be a problem. And if you can make romantic love, deeper ie with a degree of unconditionality, that’s even better. It would be silly to love your wife or girlfriend merely unconditionally.

I know a lot about unconditional love because this is how I feel about my cat. It’s a lot easier with animals and children.

Sorry I am just looking for a goal to cheer but I keep finding goals that make me want to comment.