You need to let him go. Anyone that causes any harm to your children is not worth keeping. And trust me, if he causes you so much distress that your patience and kindness toward your children suffers, then it’s harming your children.

My mom is kind of like you. She has so much hate and anger in her heart toward my dad-and she takes it out on me in many ways. She has no patience for me-she’s told me that I’m a waste of affection. Her direct words.

You don’t want that.

Drop the guy.
Just do it.

Oh. You also have the decision to dump him. Unless he’s pulling an income above $40,000/year and being a father, he’s only a strain on you.
You need to realize that.

I’m so tired of people saying “God says forgive and forget” “I have to put the past behind us”.
No.

God never intended for people to sleep around on eachother. So that clearly does not apply.