like this:
Mom/Dad/Etc:
“I want to see a therapist. It’s not a big deal, [a lie, but you don’t want them to freak out] but I don’t really want to talk about it with you. I’ve been feeling stressed and I really think it will help. It’s extremely important to me.” ... “No, I don’t want to talk about it with you.” ... “No. I just want to talk to a therapist. This isn’t your fault, but I need this. Now.”

And if they don’t listen, just keep asking. Or pretend you didn’t hear them say no. Repeat: “I really need you to make an appointment with a therapist for me.”
And then tell them that same thing the next day. Etc. Be annoying about it. Or just ignore them (if they refuse) and ask “So did you make an appointment yet?” – over and over again. I know this doesn’t sound easy but YOU NEED HELP. Don’t let them convince you otherwise. And knowing that you need help is a good thing. It’s a step in the right direction and they should be proud of you (and if they’re not, that’s their fault. Don’t take it personally that parents don’t usually understand this sort of thing).

Which is why it will be hard for them to hear that you want help from somebody other then them…. they want to feel that they can look after all your needs themselves. But they can’t. It isn’t anything unusual or wrong in that. Teenagers and even pre-teens need objective outside mentors as well as parents.

It sounds like you already know yourself really well… you just need help getting on track with where you can go :)

So, realise that you CAN be the happy healthy daughter they want … but to get there, you need to not pretend that you are, but demand the help you need to get there.

~A heart full of support
Lindsay

P.S. It has been proven that exercise is one of the by far best anti-depresants… it isn’t enough to help everybody, I realize that… but it can’t hurt you and may be a tool towards health that will help boost you up … don’t do this as an alternative to therapy, which you obviously need, since even you realise it, but try it in addition :) (If I don’t get three to four good sweaty works outs in throughout my week, it doesn’t matter how many perscribed meds I’m on, I’m a psychological mess ready to go off!)

So, I was thinking about your struggle more, and realized that it might be an idea to write a note/letter to them? I’ve found that if I want to make a really large impact on my parents, writing a letter can be an amazing tool. That way they read all you need to say on the matter without the awkwardness of face to face and conversational interuptions. It can also give them time to think about your point of view and your needs without feeling that they have to reply immediately, which cuts down on the knee-jerk-responce type answer that is more likely. It also means that you can craft what you want to say and edit it into something you feel is truelly representative of your request instead of having to wing it in conversation.

Anyway, it’s just an idea…

OH MY GOD!

okay, well i JUST turned thirteen, and listen to me, i went through THE EXACT EXACT same thing, okay?

if you need to talk to me, email me at brinerorama@gmail.com.

i’ll even give you my number if you need it.

believe me, i DO and WILL care.

really, just if you need anything, PLEASE pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaase PLEASE! email me!

god bless ya hunn,

-madisongrace<3

It’s almost exactly the same for me, except I don’t cut. My dad thinks therapy is bad. I do feel depressed a lot too.

Hope everything goes well and gets better, <3