I already told her I’d like to be her friend again. Get to know each other all over again. Build up trust. Have fun times, and share laughter. You’re right, I won’t pressurize her into anything or pester her. It is down to her. Shes knows already how I feel about her, but I know I have to bide my time. Wait and let her let me in. It’s up to her, because I know how hard it must be for her. meanwhile, waiting is just hurting like mad. It’s hard not to stop dragging my feet around after me. But, yes, you’re right, I have to convince her that I can make her laugh, smile and be happy again, and that I am the guy she wants again. I’m just so gutted I had her once and let her go. I hope I don’t live to regret it, I would never forgive myself.
Thanks for the support though!
It really helps!
:-)

I dated her for 3 years. At the start of the relationship (4 month mark) I discovered that she had started cheating on me with 1 guy at the 1 month point of our relationship. I was crushed because I was already deeply in love with her. We had a major argument about the cheating. We worked things out and she promised not to do it again. I told her that she could not talk to the guy again in order to avoid any temptation. She said he was not important to her and that he treated her like crap so no problem. Well, 3 months later, at the 7 month point, she admitted that she had gone back to having sex with him almost right away after I had found out the first time, but that she had realized that she loved ME and wanted to get away from him. She told me that she had hit rock bottom and that she begged me to give her another chance to prove that she could be faithful to me. I (like a fool really) gave her another chance. For the next year we had issues because of the cheating. I would constantly be reminded of it and in turn, I would say some not so nice things in arguments we’d have. Well, 2 years later (about a week ago now) we had an argument because she hurt my feelings. She immediately stopped answering my calls and text messages. All she would say is “we will talk on sunday” From Wednesday to Sunday I did alot of thinking. I came up with many issues I needed to change. She agreed to talk to me on the phone Saturday and I told her that I realized I had been saying some bad things to her and that I had to treat her better. I told her (and I mean it) that I would change if she’d just give me the same chance I’d given her 2 years prior. Well, on Sunday she told me that she could not be anything more than my friend. She said she could not take the nasty comments. I again told her that I would change and asked that she give me a chance to prove it. She said no, just friends. I feel this was an unfair decision on her part since I had given her such a big chance earlier in the relationship. In fact, I honestly feel I took a bigger risk. She could have gone back to cheating on me and hidden it from me for a long time. In my situation, if I tell her I’m going to treat her right, she will know because she gets immediate feedback. That’s not something I had when I took a risk on her. So, I feel like she’s being unfair with me. Well, to go from being her lover to just her friend is so hard for me. I miss HER so much. We just hung out today and she told me to give her some space on the issue of getting back together (I brought up the fairness angle and she said that at this point she’s not interested in being fair) and that she’d think about it—no promises, just that she’d think about it. Now I’m just trying to be her friend while dealing with a crushed heart. I cry all the time thinking about how I messed up. I know that if she decides to take me back I won’t ever treat her like that again. At the same time, I know I have to live with the consequences of my actions if she chooses not to take me back. Right now I’m her friend and I’m just trying to be supportive of her. I’m trying to be the guy she once fell in love with so that she will fall in love with me all over again. It just hurts SO much. I miss everything about her. She’s the love of my life.

You have to build up that trust again. After you broke up with her, she will have hurt alot and she may be afraid you might do it again. You have to convince her otherwise. At leat she still talking to you and thats a start. Build a friendly relationship with her, make her laugh and smile again, and see what a great guy you are. Make her fall in love with you all over again. Yes, it will take lots of time and effort, it wont happen overnight or within a week , and there will be alot of heartache for you, but you have to decide if shes worth it.
Do you miss HER?
or do you miss being in a relationship.
If the answer is her, you have a lot of work to do. Just like me.
I wish you all the luck in the world.