I didn’t do the things I thought I wanted to do…but the converse was achieving things that were in someways polar opposites.

I wanted to take a plunge where I hadn’t gone before – somewhere into a darker place – but a friend I shared those goals with – felt I didn’t belong in those darker spaces and that I built too much in my life to walk there. I suppose she was right.

I had choose to move into the shadow part of me as my new things – but those are areas that will not be illuminated – because they do represent bad choices which would move me in the wrong direction.

I learned to choose wisely – or wiser – moving forward. Those better choices are the outcome of my three new things! Not acting on dark sides.

See Debbie Ford’s Why Good People Do Bad Things. It has helped me to understand these impulses.