Dyanna for the next 2 weeks just is

Help people to understand why I do not NEED a romantic relationship to have a happy and successful life, then show them that they can do the same AND that they should LOVE themselves NOT CHANGE themselves to satisfy the wants of another human being (read all 2 entries…)

Ok here's a question  — 1 month ago

So I go to visit my cousins out of town, just like I always do in the summer. This time though not just one cousin, one great aunt and a few toddlers were there, they had a brunch with they very large brood in attendance. Think like 30 people with mother father, kids, their kids and some i think even their kids. So they have a family rule that the kids can only sit at the big formal table if they are married.
So there were 4 of the unweds and me, I have nearly a decade on the nearly married couple who sat at the big formal table. And the same decade goes for the kids at the not married table. So, at what point do I get to sit at the formal table with the adults?
I mean really, my brunch conversation consitted of sly snickers about pot smoking days and last nights shooter escapades. I mean give me a break. I am an educated grown up, do I really need to sit with the barely legal children because I am unwed?
So I plan never to get married hook up or whatever. I wonder when I can graduate to the formal table sans husband. Or will I forever be cutting the chicken for my cousins babies?

Comments:

pcyclepath out of here - goal 14

Couldn’t you tell in advance to the party organizer (your aunt perhaps) that you are going to sit with the other adults of similar age and it’s about time to change this rather silly rule?

Dyanna for the next 2 weeks just is

If only it were so easy

No I couldn’‘t. It’s a very patriarchal family with the head, my great uncle still around and calling the shots. He would never go for an unwed gal sitting at th adults table. I mean, he’s been hosting dinners at that table for 60 years, he’s not about to change his rules now. Heaven forbid the modern world enter his home.

pcyclepath out of here - goal 14

Sorry didn’t realize the extend of the problem at first, how difficult it must be. I really admire you for putting so much effort to keep the relationship with your extended family going.

That is

completely outrageous. While I understand that you were at your uncle’s house, it’s still outrageous that you (and the other guests) were made to feel that you were only worthy of recognition as an adult if you were married. What an unjustifiable criterion for “grown up” inclusion.

Grr.

travelyogatrance is falling

Nonsense

I’m sorry sister, but that is one ass backwards rule. THEY are the ones with the problem, not you. I’d either suck it up and have fun with the kiddies or stop going to family functions of this nature if they cannot treat you with respect as the adult that you are. No offense to your uncle, but his rule really is one of the dumbest things Ive ever heard in my life.

Im a happily independent woman myself and I wish you much joy as you continue to live a full, happy life free from an intimate romantic relationship~ :D


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