Being in a similar situation to you, I thought I’d post a quick reply in the hopes that it would not only help you, but me as well.

For a good while I was in a long-distance relationship with another girl. I suppose in my head there were two separate worlds – one of normality (mundanity), of school and making your tea and television, and the other was this place of love and passion and lust that, while wonderfully insane, felt more real and natural than anything I’d felt in my life up until that point. These worlds didn’t really collide very often, which is probably why my feelings regarding my sexuality haven’t been completely resolved yet (assuming that’s even possible).

As far as I know my parents don’t know what went on between us, though perhaps that’s just wishful thinking. I don’t know if I’m entirely ready for them to know. My dad would understand, I feel, but my mum (who I’m living with at the moment) probably wouldn’t take it too well. There was a time when I tried to find a label for myself, a title I could claim when quizzed about my sexuality. I’m not hugely fussed about that now and am content self-identifying as simply queer. I think I’d always been intellectually bisexual but I’d never really felt a strong emotional or physical attraction to anyone until I met the aforementioned lucky lady. It’s funny, it took being in a relationship with someone of the same sex to discover how much I really fucking love women. This is the point where I do my lecherous grin.

Wow, that was a bit of a me-me-me-fest, sorry. Some advice now… I reckon just do what feels right to you. If you really like this girl and it’s reciprocated, just go for it. It doesn’t mean you have to start buying Playboy or watching Ellen reruns, nor does it set your present or future sexuality in stone.

Follow yer heart (and perhaps other things too). ;)