It is hard to have a non-traditional wedding. Not so hard to have it I guess, but to get any help planning it. Everything leads you to the age old traditions that are much overdone and many outdated. We had a fabulous time at our wedding. We held the ceremony at a lighthouse near our home, which was owned by BLM. Our ceremony was short and held on the bluffs (in the morning). We followed this with some short tours of lighthouse, and trips to the top =) Then off to the cove about 4 miles down the road for kayaking and a BBQ. Everyone hung out at the beach or did their own thing in the afternoon, and then reconvened for pizza for dinner. It was a fabulous day, and relatively low impact. In addition, one of the things we put on our registry was a donation to Sierra Club, for which we had a few takers.