I know what you mean, it’s pretty weird. Particularly if it’s someone you don’t know very well…

I also had a girl find my blog once. I had just met her at a Web Design course. She openly gave her blog address to everyone (which I found odd, because there was a lot of personal stuff about her brother being a drug addict on it), and I said I also had a blog, but preferred being anonymous. The same evening, I get a comment from her on my blog (this was like 5 years ago, I didn’t realize she could find me on Google just because I mentioned my first name on the page). I felt totally violated, and haven’t really dared blogging since… Well, up until now. Now I don’t care who finds it ;)

But good for you you didn’t take it down!! How did he find though, if you didn’t mention you had the website? Did he find it by googling your name?

that’s kind of fun, isn’t it? I mean, if it’s random and they’re not purposefully looking for you, then it’s quite cool :)

That IS kinda freaky, actually… In a sorta cool way… as long as the people who come up to you are not psychopaths or anything ;)

Sounds like a lady named Fate had a part in this… :)

is cheer-bombed already :)

Which makes me think that this was a really great and sweet idea :)
My friend actually joined too, so I’m sure she’d love an unexpected welcome with a few cheers ;-)

She actually has one little tiny entry too…

http://www.43things.com/person/Heranium

I’m with you on this. 43T is like a little sanctuary where I tell some of my innermost thoughts. Stuff I wouldn’t tell even my closest friends. I hope no one would ever recognize me….........

I used to feel the exact same way up until very recently.

I was out with a friend, and had a few beers (first time I drank with her ever, as I’d been breastfeeding for 2,5 years, and not had a sip of alcohol in over 3 years).
The conversation turns to sex-related subjects, and I start babbling about some cool gay porn I had just downloaded. She looks at me totally shocked, and cannot believe that I’m not messing with her. She couldn’t believe I thought porn was okay (she had these very feministic views on it… although not quite relevant in this particular case… he he). So all in all, I realized we had become quite close friends over the past couple of years, and she had no fucking idea who I was (I mean, in Junior high, I was like the ‘porn encyclopedia’ of the school, so this has always been a big part of my social identity… no matter how weird that is).

I decided at that very moment to quit hiding. I was keeping back, and probably losing a chance at some great relationships because I wasn’t totally being myself.

The way I figure it now is, you get hurt either way. Disclose everything or keep it all back, the risks are equal. So might as well have the satisfaction of having been myself 200%! :D

Oh! And we’re much closer friends since :)