Dave is back to business

Do something useful with my facebook account (read all 4 entries…)
Faces and things 17 months ago

I just don’t get it.

It seems to me that Facebook is a complete waste of time, but perhaps I’m just not trying hard enough. Sure, it’s fun at first to connect with all the people I haven’t seen in 20 years, but let’s face it, the reason I haven’t kept in touch with most of them is that I have nothing in common with them. Other than an occasional chuckle from a photo of an overweight, stressed out 40-something whom I haven’t seen since they were an anorexic, uptight 20-something, there isn’t much value there to extract, at least for me.

Contrast that with 43T. Here, I have a dozen or two people I correspond with because of common interests or attitudes about life. Sure, they’re total strangers, but I feel more in common with, say, someone curious about political systems and structures than someone who happened to graduate from the same high school as me.

Anyway, I’ll give it another couple of weeks, but I’m starting to see Facebook as a lost cause for me, and nothing but an endless time sink with very little return.

Jul 05, 2008, 05:52AM PDT | 2 cheers


Comments:

mahinui ever more at home

you made me chuckle

Sure, there are reasons we “lose track” of people in our lives, if it is not that we have not actively given up on them.

There are only a handful of people from my past who I would truly enjoy reconnecting with. One I have looked for all over the place for years. This person has so successfully and completely disappeared that I am certain he is either dead or moved to another country.

Facebook? I started an account, and then abandoned it. 43T uses up enough of my time, and yes, at least the people here interest me in a more than passing way.

Jul 05, 2008, 09:40AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Dave is back to business

missing persons

I feel the same way as you. I have a “missing person” who disappeared from my life after being one of my closest (and I mean, like one of two) friends for more than a decade. Every time I do another one of these on-line systems (LinkedIn, Facebook, 43T, Skype, etc) I instinctively search for his name. I think he doesn’t want to be found, however.

Jul 05, 2008, 01:58PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

llong is glowing slowly but surely

Are you sure....

....your friend has not passed?

Jul 06, 2008, 04:25AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Dave is back to business

never sure

of course that is a possibility, especially with this guy’s devil-may-care life-style. But I doubt it. More likely he truly wanted to disappear.

Jul 07, 2008, 06:22AM PDT | Respond to this

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Jul 07, 2008, 01:38AM PDT

Dave is back to business

friends and acquaintances

Indeed. “The thinking person’s blogsite” could be the 43T byline, perhaps?

I suspect, though, that a better term for a FB friend (or myspace for that matter) is an acquaintance. And while those people are my acquaintances, I count very few of them as friends.

Still, I keep hoping. Every now and then in life, I encounter someone with whom I had nothing in common 10 years ago, but who now is interested in one or more of my current favorites. You never know.

Jul 07, 2008, 06:26AM PDT | Respond to this


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