It looks like this isn't really settled after all
16 months ago
Perhaps I was applying too much wishful thinking to what seemed like an agreement before.
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I feel like I don’t have much choice but to leave.
[broken-hearted]
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Flash, I'm really sorry
It sounds like such a difficult choice to make, but it sounds like you know which one you’re not able to give up. You will be a wonderful mother when that time comes.
ello keeps Hoff Week in her heart all year long.
oh honey
I’m so sorry.
What does your partner say?
He says when we came to an agreement before, he thought he could just "do it for me"
... but when it comes right down to it, he can’t go through with it. He says he has continued to feel an inner conviction that parenting is not for him and that it will be a major sidetrack and drain of resources on all of his dreams.
pioneerspirit is re-discovering 43
(((hugs)))
I’m so sorry you’re disappointed and heart broken. This must be hard for both of you.
mecando is fabulous
the question is...
Is he holding out to fulfill his unfulfilled dreams or is he actively pursuing his dreams now? If not, it sounds like he’s compromising having a family and keeping you in his life for what may be fantasies about what he THINKS MIGHT BE is in his future. I just hope he’s really honest with himself about this. And if he is. Love him, but leave him. You want your man to want this JUST AS MUCH AS YOU DO! You can’t do it alone every time he gets squeamish. Okay, off the soap box now. Good luck with this. I have found that sometimes we just need to listen to what our partner is saying and believe them.
I believe him now
Before I thought it was just jitters like lots of expectant dads say they experience, but who couldn’t love their own baby when they see it?
But now I believe him.
Romilly MacAran is envisioning
To be fair, Flash,
I’m sure he would love his own baby, but if he is not wholeheartedly invested, he will eventually feel resentment, more likely toward you than to your child, and perhaps toward your child as well. So you’re right to believe he doesn’t want this. He might one day, long from now, or maybe not, but sadly, not on your timetable.
How old is your partner?
Romilly MacAran is envisioning
Choices
It breaks My heart that you feel heartbroken. This is a terrible choice to have to make, but an understandable one. If children are a dealbreaker then his unwillingness, or inability, would indeed leave you no choice. But is that the end-all, be-all case? Wishful thinking aside, what is the reality of his opinion/decision?
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A Staggering Rat of Heartbreaking Something or Other "I musta made a wrong toin at Al-buh-KOY-kee"
Desolee, Flash.
I do agree with Mrs Romilly, though.
