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become a better conversationalist (read all 2 entries…)
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A question about this goal: I’ve noticed that many of my conversations, especially with people who know each other but don’t know me, evolve into discussions that I know nothing about. For example, they may end up talking about their favorite sports team, their visit to Graceland, or mutual friends. How do you engage a group like this, when you really have nothing substantial to add? One option would be to hijack the conversation into another direction, but that seems rude.



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Whenever I’m in this situation, I always try to learn as much as I can about the topic, if only to contribute to the conversation. You can also break it down and/or take it in a different (but related) direction. Say they’re talking about how much they love their new toy poodle. You may not give a crap, but you could ask about why they chose that particular breed of dog, whether they like dogs or cats better, even what they might think about domestication of animals. It seems like it’s really the specifics that are holding you back. If you get the topic broader, you can have a discussion that benefits the whole group.

xturnitup is trying/going to be the person i want to be :) -- just watch me.

You can always ask questions about the topic to learn more about it.


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