I’m not, but I like the facebook group’s name.

1. The guy I thought I would marry for five years just got married on the day that we’d chosen for our wedding, the week of our anniversary, and he had asked me to get back together less than 9 months ago, when he was months into dating his current wife. He was my best friend for 5 years, and it’s clear from our conversations that we can never talk again barring extreme circumstances, as if we were divorced. I feel divorced. I don’t know that I would like to be married to him, but I am sad to lose his friendship.

2. I’ve had a hard time concentrating on work, and I have done very few productive things in the past 3 weeks. My current job is ending in just a few weeks and I haven’t accomplished much all year, and I’d really like to leave with a good impression. I feel like I wasted the year.

3. I have to move to a new city for a new (good!) job, and I feel scared and unsure where to live. I’ve lived in all the major US cities, but the new city is simultaneously dangerous and doesn’t have much going on.

4. Beyond the scariness and pressure of moving to a new city, there’s the pressure of finding a husband, and I feel like I have to do everything exactly right to maximize the chances of that working out.

I feel absolutely completely rotten and I know that I will feel better if I accomplish some task, but I have trouble concentrating. The irony is that I broke up with my ex partly because he had depression that paralyzed him for years. He improved in the next 2 years after we broke up because he finished his college classes and got more responsibility and rose to the occasion. I wish I hadn’t lost respect for him back when we were dating.