ChiOmegaGirl is looking for her perfect job. Help?

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Derailed  — 1 month ago

Since I can’t seem to make a decision about anything, I don’t know why this would be any different. I come complete with a college degree, loving husband, and brand new house, but find myself wondering if I’m even capable of motherhood, now that my husband and I are actually ready to start trying.

I know, I know, I know.

I’ve having cold feet and all women probably experience fear to some degree when making such a life altering decision, but I don’t know I have “the right stuff.” I’m more and more aware of my selfishness and inability to maintain the sanity that raising a child no doubt requires.

There was a never a point in my life when I didn’t look forward to having children. Until now.

Frick.

Jul 13, 04:09PM PDT 2 cheers

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bethanyleigh wants to sleep for hours and hours and not have to do anything.

I have

the same thoughts you’re having (but I’m not ready to have kids). That’s why I think you’ll be fine, because unlike me, you’ve never had these feelings until you finally decide you want to start trying, which is a big indication that it is only cold feet.

Jul 16, 08:24PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

ChiOmegaGirl is looking for her perfect job. Help?

It does kind of seem like that, doesn’t it? I’m positive that I’m not the only woman experiencing this, but I did a pretty good job of working myself up over it. Thanks for the reassurance!

Jul 17, 09:46PM PDT | Respond to this

mothercita .

I think you will know

when the time is right…
why not just relax and set aside those scarey serious books…
Let your husband prove also that he is there for you so it won’t seem so scarey for you.
It seems you guys will know when the time is right, perhaps it is your hormones.. are you ovulating at all on the BC you are on? cuz perhaps you might want to switch to one where you can experience your natural hormones.
I sure know my biological self thought differently about love and romance when I was ovulating, and wanted babies. I have 5 kids and am glad I had em . How many do you want?
Love to you!

Jul 19, 09:03PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

ChiOmegaGirl is looking for her perfect job. Help?

Thank you

Ahhhh, that’s amazing advice. Exactly what I needed to hear. A big part of my problem is that I take myself (and everything else) much too seriously. I’m certain that motherhood will force me to change that tune, which is definitely a good thing. I have plenty of time to start a family and I just need to relax and let nature do what it does best.
You have five kids? I’ve always wanted at least three, but I don’t think I’d be brave enough to handle five! = )

Jul 20, 11:02AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

mothercita .

I had a lot of gaps

I have had babies born in 4 different decades!
they are now 29(born in 78 when i was 18)another is 27(born in 81 she is now married with a 2 yr old) and 21( he was born in 87… the younger ones are 7 and 9- born in 99 and 2001!
The first and last were not “planned”- Love to you and your husband!

Jul 21, 12:57PM PDT | Respond to this

diamondlightfoot

don't worry

I have an older son who is going through something like this. He’s 35 now and he’s never been a father and doesn’t plan to. My younger son is a father with kids with more than one woman and my older one has seen that and just wants solidity in his life. He wants to marry one woman and remain with her only. He wants to travel and enjoy life and kids are a huge responsibility. I’ve taught him that no matter how much I like being a grandmother, I’m not the one raising them and they need to really be sure they can share their lives and give up things for that child(ren) for the rest of their days.

So don’t worry. If the time comes that you want to be a parent, you’ll know it. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen. Until then, enjoy your life and try not to worry about things you have some control over. If it happens, it happens. If not, you can always do something about it later. Accomplish what you want to now.

Jul 20, 08:45AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

ChiOmegaGirl is looking for her perfect job. Help?

So…relax? = ) Got it. I really do need to stop and take a step back some times. I need to realize that worrying is not the best or most appropriate way to spend my time. Thank you.

Aug 11, 01:21PM PDT | Respond to this

Bob1623 will watch as much of the Olympics as humanly possible

The fact you

are questioning if you will make a good mom means you are ready and will be great. Once it happens, you get the mind set. That is why nature gave us 9 months.

Aug 08, 06:32PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

ChiOmegaGirl is looking for her perfect job. Help?

Hahah – that’s some great advice. I love the deep truth in it and the humor = ) Thank you for being so sweet and supportive!

Aug 11, 01:20PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Bob1623 will watch as much of the Olympics as humanly possible

From Experience

I know this is true because I went through the same thing before my first son was born. I did not think I was ready at all, or that I would be very good at the parenting thing.
Twenty seven years later, he is a great young man and I am very proud of him.
Both my sons turned out great, either because of me or in spite of me. Take your pick.

You will be great also.

Aug 11, 05:39PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

keylimepies is thinking about Vipassana

well

I was never really ready to have kids…. I never really liked little kids and babies????? A year after I was married I got pregnant. It wasn’t planned. I remember being in shock. That was 20 years ago and I now have four kids and am addicted to new born babies…..... I bet you will make a fantastic Mom, and I guarantee once you set your eyes on your baby you will be in love forever :) .

Aug 11, 10:34PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers


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