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Relationship????? 3 months ago

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am not ready for another one of THOSE just yet. But a gal has needs, and I am also not ready to only be having sex with myself, as great as that may be. I am in my sexual prime for God’s sake…...I am not going to waste it.

But how does one go about this? I don’t know how to meet men anymore, and I am not a bar person. I tried local personals…...an unmitigated disaster. The responses to my ad freaked me out, so I removed it. Sigh.

Dear God/Goddess: Please send me a hot man with no STD’s and a willingness to practice safe but kinky sex. Tall, dark and handsome would be nice, as well as chest hair and a Harley Davidson. (Is that asking too much, ya think???)

Jul 15, 02:09PM PDT | 11 cheers


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Hawkmeister ~ Converge. Create. Cremate.

there are ways...

43 of ‘em.

:)

Jul 15, 04:01PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 5 cheers

Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

do tell…...............

Jul 17, 10:25AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Hawkmeister ~ Converge. Create. Cremate.

maybe you could do...

with a little vacation.

Or maybe live abroad a little while.

If you can wait just a little while…

Like I said, there are ways…

Jul 17, 03:49PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

i HAVE been seriously considering the live abroad option…..........

Jul 19, 02:09PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Hawkmeister ~ Converge. Create. Cremate.

Do you mean generally?

Or this option specifically?

:)

Jul 21, 10:37AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Untitled - Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo
PS - Hawkmeister ~

Dominant7th

I've been a bit curious

about the speed dating events. Why don’t you try those, and report back?

Three new, sweet couples among my acquaintance. Two – met through online dating services, and all involved met and dated quite a few people before they came across one another. One of these couples is shy about how they met, and were giggling as they told me various ideas they’d cooked up to tell people how they’d met. (They’re in their 50’s.)

One couple met at the baths, but lie and tell most people they met through an online dating service. :)

Jul 15, 04:15PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

dating........don't make me hurl, please, or dry heave as the case may be, since I can't eat anything lately......

speed dating? right…you go first, darlin’...hee hee….....

i don’t want a DATE, D7, i don’t want dinner and a movie. i just want someone to shag every now and then…....the baths huh? i wonder if there are any of those around here…..........

Jul 17, 10:24AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

Dominant7th

I know exactly what you mean

The problem with sex – for straight women, anyway – is that it can so easily lead to relationships, which is why I have uncharacteristically been staying well away from the whole matter since my late beau’s death.

I’ve envied my gay friends who have options like going to the baths, or just going to particular parks, making eye contact with someone and getting no-strings-attached sex. Jesus!

Chances of me “going first” are pretty remote.

Will have to find someone else to trick into checking something I have idle curiousity about then, darn.

Jul 17, 10:45AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

“The problem with sex – for straight women, anyway – is that it can so easily lead to relationships…..” (D7)

I think you are right, but I believe that is because too many women confuse lust with love. They think that if they’re having sex with someone it “must be love.” Au contraire! I learned about and made that distinction in my 20’s….it was quite a revelation. I thought I was in love with this guy because we had this incredibly powerful, passionate sexual relationship. After we’d been spending time together for a few months I realized I absolutely was not in love with him…in fact outside of our sexual relationship he actually drove me nuts; he was insecure, arrogant and more than a bit obtuse. But I KNEW for a fact, it was pure unadulterated lust, and as such “recreational sex” and that was OK with me. When he started thinking it was more than that, that’s when I had to end it. That relationship taught me a very valuable lesson about my own sexual nature, and how to make that distinction between lust and the desire for recreational sex, and the sexual, more intimate bond with men I truly love/am in love with. At this point in my life I just want the uncomplicated bliss of a relationship purely based on lust and purely recreational. I am not willing right now to do all the work that comes with “relationship”. I will be again, someday; I was a good partner to my recent ex. (Just because I was dumped, doesn’t mean I am disposable…..at the risk of sounding arrogant myself, I know my worth despite some recent blows to my self esteem and confidence. Everybody keeps saying to me that his is the greater loss. I am inclined to agree with them…..he possessed many good qualites, alas, maturity was not one of them, and that part of him I will not miss, ever.)I’ll be a good partner to another one day, and I look forward to that, but not right now. No “relationships” right now! Just some straight up, no holds barred shaggin’, sister!! Bring it on!! Gotta go…my arms killing me…........

Jul 17, 11:10AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

Dominant7th

that's only half of it

And not the half that I personally have problems with. I was pretty wild as a young person, and was never too concerned about “being in love” – I certainly did fall in love but was, uh, flexible in my attitudes.

The worse problem – and this seems to happen more and more as I get older – is finding guys who don’t go from “just sex” to dependent / stalker incredibly quickly. If you let them in at all, you can’t get rid of them! This is another advantage of park sex. They wouldn’t know where you live.

better rest that arm, BQ…

Jul 17, 11:36AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

I was just going to point this out. - nicolasc has a roof over her head and food in her belly. Nice.
Untitled - Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo
You're right. - nicolasc has a roof over her head and food in her belly. Nice.
there's a lot of bs involved in this thread - Dominant7th
No worries. I assumed it was at least half-joking, but - nicolasc has a roof over her head and food in her belly. Nice.
these other people... - Hawkmeister ~
Why, yes, they do. - nicolasc has a roof over her head and food in her belly. Nice.
Hey! - Hawkmeister ~
Untitled - Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo
On the way? - Hawkmeister ~
Untitled - Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo
Untitled - Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

Dominant7th

yeah, try park sex.

You go first, okay?

Jul 17, 11:41AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

park sex - Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo
with parks like that - Dominant7th
Untitled - Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo
remember when - Hawkmeister ~
I think you mean - Contemplative Jenn
oh, yeah - Hawkmeister ~

BigDlittled is a discovered country

ah

all very refreshing
talk
thanks

Jul 21, 07:52PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

heaveemetal trusting our financial gurus since 2008

LOL...

Is it really that hard to meet someone halfway decent during these dark times of tasted great, less filling?...

.:checking my notes carefully:::...

Wait…you may be right…my bad…

Jul 21, 08:26PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 6 cheers

Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

“Halfway decent”?

Brother, you need to raise your standards…...

LOL!

Jul 22, 08:10AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

heaveemetal trusting our financial gurus since 2008

If I raised...

my standards…I would never get any…the slightest thought of that makes an alarm go off in my head…

Having some…or lots is a good thing for me now…a perk of being alive as it were…

Jul 23, 06:16AM PDT | Respond to this 4 cheers

nosebleed hopes everything will work out fine... eventually

Hey now!

I think I fit those criteria, well except the Harley Davidson, but uh, my friend has a minivan!

When can I start? Is there an interview process?

Jul 22, 04:56AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

LOL!

Jul 22, 08:09AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

nosebleed hopes everything will work out fine... eventually

Ohh

That’s the usual response I get :(

cries

Jul 22, 06:50PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Bee has limited internet access at the mo'..catch ya when I can! xo

All I meant was, it was funny, as in humorous, it wasn’t a dismissive kind of LOL, but an appreciative “Hey, that made me laugh!” kind of LOL. I think it was the minivan thing….the capacity to make people laugh is a GOOD thing. :~D

Jul 22, 06:55PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

nosebleed hopes everything will work out fine... eventually

I know

I was being tongue-in-cheek myself… :)

(BTW, ‘tongue-in-cheek’ itself sounds rather kinky, huh?)

Jul 22, 07:18PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

wonderfulworld003 its your god forsaken right to be loved, loved, loved

fwb?

friends with benefits is no way to go if you know the person…..stick to strangers

Aug 21, 11:52AM PDT | Respond to this


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