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I feel so frustrated.

My parents are visiting me and I’m very happy to see them. Since I kinda have a new apt and that they rented a car (I don’t have any), we bought some furniture I wanted to. Then they kept suggesting decoration stuff though I made clear I wanted to think about it, you know, I don’t want to do my apt in one day and that’s it, end of the story. I want to think about it, wait for picking up the right items in stores and appropriate my apartment again after all the new furniture we brought.

My mum was quite insisting on curtains and bed sheets she showed me once and I kept telling her I didn’t want them, this was not the style I was thinking or whatever.

Today I came back from work, and here they are, the curtains and bed sheets I didn’t want and she’ll be back in the apt soon with a broad smile. How can she be expecting me to be happy with that when she is forcing like this, after I told her I didn’t want them.
I hate lying and faking, I’m a very sincere person.

I am going through a hard period and I feel like she’s violating the small private garden I’m trying to keep to myself. Building a home by myself mean something to me. This has to come from me.

And they are leaving in a few days and I don’t want them to feel bad. Why the hell did they buy that.



Comments:

It's very hard

to break away from your parents but if you know what you don’t want, thank them for their generosity, maybe suggest they get you a gift card: it would be like they bought you just the right thing when you find it. Keep trying!

Trauma_Junkie needs to clean up her goals list.

Well....

If you can manage not to put them up…without hurting your Mum, then you can simply return them.

As far as sheets, I always accept sheets no matter what…its nice to have a clean set handy for emergencies. (ok so sheet emergencies…)

Good Luck!

Finally it went quite well, I’m quite relieved!

They arrived at home when I was still mad but I managed to be gently teasing about it and finally my mum understood it was kinda of a mistake. Since I was forcing to be in a good mood I finally get being in a good mood enough and I finally highlighted the fact that I liked them (curtain + bed cover, not bed sheets as I mentionned) even if it was not fitting my apt, and that anyway I’ll keep them carefully for my next apartment (and that I was going to enjoy the gift for now till I found what I wanted instead).

My mum was a little sad but I did my best to show how happy and thankful I was about them visiting me and we had a great time until they left this morning.

Sometimes I can be so damn fragile.. , but it’s important for me to keep being honest and not hurting people at the same time.. haha, what a trouble.

Thanks for your support Frannie and Trauma_Junkie! Everybody is facing one day or another a gift they don’t want right? ;)


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