All the bad habits that I’ve learned, I’ve taken with me & I catch myself doing from time to time. When confronted by a new lover, all I can say to refute the misdeed is “it’s not my fault”. But in reality, we need to un-learn these bad things, like criticizing other people, not listening to what the person is saying, not being sympathetic, among many other things. This is a good one. thanks for bringing it up! i’m a prime saboteur…