I think making a conscious decision to do this has really helped. We’ve made love a few times in the five days since I added this goal. And the days that we haven’t actually had sex, we’ve at least been able to be more physically close-kissing, cuddling, etc. He’s become more aware of what I need to get past the affair, and I think me starting to become physical with him again has been part of that. He said that he felt like I was punishing him by witholding sex-that’s not what I intended, but I can see how it would come off that way. I’m just super excited to feel like a couple again, instead of roommates.