shunyata

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opinions please... 5 months ago

ok, i’m taking a poll on what people think i should do because i’m having a lot of trouble making up my mind.

it looks like i’m going to be offered a teaching job in my field – the offer, if it happens, will come in the next couple of days. i have been struggling with finding a new job and changing careers, so this comes at a very good time – i need a job! the job is in the berkshires (beautiful but cold) and one of my closest friends happens to live less than a half hour from campus. same friend has a place for us to rent right away, we could move right in. same friend and partner would be great for support re childcare – they love my son, we spent part of last summer at their house in the berkshires. so far, all the people i’ve spoken with at the college sound very very very nice and i’m sure it would be a very different environment than the one i left. the school is tiny (450 students compared to the 25k i just came from) and so are the classes (max 18). the town it’s in is fantastic and i’m sure i would feel very at home there.

sounds great? downsides: 1) they want me to somehow move cross-country and start working by aug 25!! no formal offer yet so haven’t packed one thing. 2) i gave up my career teaching, never to go back. i didn’t apply for this job, was recruited for it. not sure if i want to go back to something that was difficult for me to maintain in my single-parenthood state. 3) i love where i live now 4) i hate the cold 5) i swore i would never live on the east coast again

biggest upside: it is a JOB. i need a job.

so what do you think?

a side note, not really related…. but the job i really want, the one i waited a year to see advertised was recently advertised and i applied for it, and it seems i will at least interview for it. but the process for this job is slow, very slow, and who knows if i have even the smallest chance of getting it? but it is here and it is taking a different path, and i wouldn’t have to move a fourth time in the space of two years.

Aug 03, 10:11PM PDT | 1 cheer


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Aug 04, 02:33AM PDT

shunyata

thanks for writing

thanks for your encouragement La Parisienne (you are still starprincesse to me!). i’d rather not say exactly what the other job is, but the work involves examining crime in a city i am very interested in, one that has a very bad crime problem. my specialty within my field is the study of crime and it was the hope of a job like this that brought me here to the san francisco bay area.

i will most likely hear from them soon regarding whether or not i will be interviewed, but the rest of the process is very slow. the city needs to create a panel of people to interview applicants for this position, and then the interviews take place. it could take weeks (or even longer!) to select the panel and then find a date and time they can all meet. i’m not sure why they don’t do this in advance but apparently they don’t. i definitely can’t wait to see what happens with the crime job in order to make a decision regarding the teaching job. i need to make that decision independent of other job prospects.

the crime job is not the only reason i’m having a hard time making this decision. an entire household to pack up, a 3,000 mile move after already moving three other times in the last two years, not being able to visit the schools for my son before enrolling him, having my son change schools again – making it the third school for him since he started kindergarten three years ago, not knowing if i even want to teach anymore… these are my biggest concerns. it would be a hard decision to reverse if i don’t like it.

but… bottom line. i need a job. and it would be a good job.

this is a very very hard decision to make!

Aug 04, 10:04AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Katie77 simplifying and designing a highly functional space and life

Any chance of taking the job without the moving van...

consider moving for the school year, or mid-year, is that possible, while keeping your current place…your child would still have to change schools though…hmmm. Outstanding to receive multiple offers around the same time frame…you are doing all the right things! Maybe journal or list the pros and cons of each, if you haven’t done this yet. Just wanted to applaud your efforts. This is a good predicament. You will see this through and make the right choice!

Aug 05, 10:57AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

shunyata

thanks!

you are incredibly sweet to write, thanks so much. decision made though, it’s not happening. it was impossible and i guess it just dawned on everyone involved that there really was just no way i could get there in time without dragging in there completely nuts. but thanks for your nice thoughts…

Aug 05, 03:12PM PDT | Respond to this

shunyata

done

ok, not taking that job. that chapter is done. a lot of stress for naught.

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Aug 13, 07:37AM PDT


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