Harijan Romantic Self-Knowing Believer

Have a safe and beautiful homebirth
its not everyone's thing, but i'd sure like to see if it's mine! 15 months ago

there are pros and cons for delivering in a hospital or at home. there are dangers everywhere and i’ve done my research, believe me. i don’t live so far from a hospital, although yeah, i know…”but in 5 minutes i could lose a crap load of blood and die!” and i also know that lots of things can go wrong because of carelessness and unnecessary interventions in hospitals. SO! i’m gonna ditch the hundreds of years worth of modern medicine and go with the thousands of years worth of doing what the human body does best. i have a marvelous midwife and my mother-in-law, a nurse, will also be joining us. these two amazing women deliver babies for a living and have been at least for the past 20 years. i trust them both and i am working on putting 100% of my trust in the Lord. i have my fears, but what 25 week pregnant lady doesn’t!? my bed and my bathtub will be set up for delivery and where ever the body calls for, is where i’ll be. if i feel like giving birth in the kitchen, then i’ll give birth in the kitchen! my husband will also be there and my mother might be there, but she’s not sure just because of plane ticket issues and job. i don’t want anybody else around until after the baby is born. i make the rules in this situation and i have two very intelligent and experienced women who are both parents of 4 and 7 children. i am not going to be as stubborn as a burro when it comes to “needing to go to the hospital” and my intuition has never failed me before. i am confident and hopeful. so far i’ve had a beautiful pregnancy with no complications, not even the traditional morning sickness. i think i am a perfect candidate for this. more than anything, i am excited! my own home. where i am most relaxed. where i can do what i want and not be inhibited by anyone. where i can play my music, bake a cake, have a slice of pizza, watch a movie, take a nap, read a book, say some prayers, walk around outside, check my email, download new music, and have all my essential baby gear readily at hand. i have meditated and prayed on this decision and everything feels good. when i think of giving birth in a hospital, i cringe, and everything feels wrong. like i said, my intuition has never failed me!

Aug 07, 2008, 12:28PM PDT | 5 cheers


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do impossible things is busy attempting to balance... she falls over a lot =/

Good luck,

I hope everthing goes well for you! Congratulations on being pregnant with a lovely baby boy (even though I’m 23 weeks late :P) All the best for teh both of you!! (also, I think the name you picked out is wonderful :)

Aug 09, 2008, 03:43PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Harijan Romantic Self-Knowing Believer

thank you!

and i’m glad you like the name! my family is very traditional italian-puerto rican… i think they were hoping for our 100th Michael. hahaha! not from me, that’s for sure!
23 weeks late, huh? have you decided to pee on a stick yet? i think you should!

Aug 09, 2008, 04:10PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

do impossible things is busy attempting to balance... she falls over a lot =/

lol

no, I meant 23 weeks late in congratulating you on your pregnancy :) [I’m only 17, I don’t plan on getting pregnant anytime soon :P)

Aug 10, 2008, 05:34AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Harijan Romantic Self-Knowing Believer

oh. lol!

sorry for the misinterpretation! i guess i’d be 25 weeks “late” though. wow, it’s been 25 weeks without a period?! holy crap! believe me, it’s not much of a break at all. with all the gross things that happen, you’d almost wish you had your period again just so the gross stuff would be predictable and you’d get a break every few weeks. haha! and then i think after giving birth, you just bleed and bleed and bleed for like 6 weeks. and you can’t wear tampons cuz your innards are all a mess. oh fun. the things we do for the things we love. HAH!

Aug 10, 2008, 07:42AM PDT | Respond to this

lilliputtigerlily is settling in the Denver area.

Best wishes with your home birth

My first birth experience was an induction gone wrong. Ended in an emergency C-section. If I had it to do over again, I would have never gotten induced, even though my entire body was itching SO badly! The second birth, less than three months ago, I wanted to try a VBAC. Thankfully, I had a obstetrician that was willing to let me try. Insurance wouldn’t cover a mid-wife or a doula, and we weren’t in any financial position to do it without insurance covering most of the bills. The Lord was gracious in letting me have a successful VBAC. I avoided being in the hospital, as long as possible (sharing similar fears as you about hospital stuff) and almost didn’t get there in time! Baby was born in 25 minutes of arriving in L&D.

All this is to say, best wishes to you friend. When is your due date?

Aug 10, 2008, 04:52PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Harijan Romantic Self-Knowing Believer

due november 28th!

and my oh my how the time is coming fast!

Aug 11, 2008, 05:08AM PDT | Respond to this

yeawodeva

Good on Ya!!

I gave birth to my first baby 16 weeks ago(exactly).

It was a homebirth, in a pool, in our loungeroom. My husband, my mother, and my midwife were the only ones present. The only lighting there was, was the kitchen light coming through the doorway, some candles, and a bedside lamp. It so quiet and peaceful…

I wont make out like it was easy, or painless, but it was certainly not a traumatic experience. And it was incredible.

The sensations are… phenomenal!! no one tells you about how amazing it feels to have a little body coming out of you. It’s insane. When Jack was halfway out(head out, body in), I felt his face, his little eyes and his mouth. Then he started twisting his head and his body… insane sensations!! I’ll never forget it…

Good on you for doing something different instead of just trusting that the medical system must know better!!

Some words of wisdom that got me through: The harder it gets, the sooner it will be till it’s over. There is only a finite number of contractions; every one is one less that you have to get through. And enjoy the quiet times between contractions; sink in and just relax. Refuse to let anything disturb your peacefulness.

And don’t forget to pray. God will give you the strenth to get through. I felt him very close to me…

Do you plan on using a pool??

PS sorry about the length!

Nov 19, 2008, 06:26AM PST | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Harijan Romantic Self-Knowing Believer

don't apologize!

this is an amazing read, you have no idea! you are the first person to ever tell me that you’ll feel the contours of his face as he comes out. i always wondered that, and i kind of imagined it that way, but to actually have someone tell me that and verify it? AWESOME!

i definitely don’t plan on it being easy, but i do plan on it being so totally and undeniably worth it. i want to have my son on MY terms. in MY comfort zone. MY way. call me stubborn :P

i didn’t get a birth tank or pool, but i am just going to set up a few corners of the house for my comfort so i can give birth where i feel like it. i don’t really have a set place. the bath tub will be set up, and my bed, and then i’ll just keep some clean up things handy around the house in case i’m walking through a contraction in my living room and he decides to come out then! hahaha!! i want to be able to listen to my body and give birth in the position it tells me to. my mother-in-law has had 4 kids and she’s told me that with every birth, her body needed to do something different and what felt comfortable the first time didn’t work out so well for the second, third… etc. and prayers? Thank God, He doesn’t really have physical ears cuz by now I would have either talked them off, or made them bleed. He’s probably sick of me by now! “I get it, I get it! CHILL!” i think that’s what he’s shouting at me about now. hahahah!

just 9 more days to go till my due date! i kinda think he’s gonna come early, though, hahahaha! we’ll see!

Nov 19, 2008, 08:25AM PST | Respond to this

HeadacheSlayer

Best Birth!

I had my son at home 7 years ago and it was the most incredible experience ever! I’m done having kids but I’d do a HB all over again!

Nov 12, 03:46AM PST | Thread | Respond to this

Harijan Romantic Self-Knowing Believer

i agree!

I gave birth at home to my son almost a year ago (yay birthday party planning!! :D) and it was PERFECT. can’t wait to do it again!

Nov 12, 07:50AM PST | Respond to this


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