simpler21

be less sensitive (read all 2 entries…)
The Problem 11 months ago

I’m male, 34, in a relationship. Engaged actually. And hyper-sensitive. To the point where I actually indulge in it.

I wonder whether people that are over sensitive also exhibit another group of behaviours. I’m not a psychologist or anything, but I think by understanding the condition better, it might help me deal with it better.

Here’s the behavioural grouping I was thinking about.

You like helping others.
You under value your own abilities and over elevate other people’s abilities
You have low self esteem.
You surround yourself mostly with people who in comparison aren’t as successful, or as good looking as you.
You prefer your own company to others.
You CONSTANTLY reject love from other people.


Can anyone else relate? I’d be interested to get feedback.

Aug 12, 2008, 10:02AM PDT | 3 cheers


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doodle13 really enjoyed the winter commute this morning!

i can totally relate to some of this behavior…i like to give myself a hard time about stuff and at times i can be very anti social but i am working on this, it feels good when i go out and have positive connections with people and i meet new people

i am trying to be a more affectionate person and i know i am but at times i feel standoffish

Aug 12, 2008, 10:12AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

simpler21

Hi doodle13 thanks.
I personally believe that sensitive people find it hard when challenged.

Hence they often prefer their own company to others, as that way they dont have to confront being criticised.

Also, by surrounding yourself to people who are “inferior” to you, you don’t have to face criticism, and hence your feelings of self worth are maintained or heightened.

I guess I’m coming a bit closer to understanding the causes and some of the symptoms. But I dont know yet, how to treat the problem of being over sensitive.

Aug 12, 2008, 06:56PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

australasia is sleeping!

You hit it right on the head. I’m a guitarist, and I’m told that I have talent all the time, but I ALWAYS put myself down, and it gets me nowhere. I also have a problem with assuming everyone is better than me at everything. I always help others, but it’s with the intention of feeling good about myself.

In another post you talked about the high-five game analogy, and that was an AMAZING example. That’s something that would actually happen to me. It’s strange learning new techniques for life…my old habits will be hard to bend. But something that seems so foreign and uncomfortable for me seems to make everyone else comfortable and happy…Thanks for your insight on all this.

Feb 16, 07:58PM PST | Respond to this


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