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I'm not giving up! 16 months ago

My husband has told me he won’t let me adopt. At. All. I’m mad at him because this is something I really feel strongly about. I do not want a child with him because he has had health problems in the past and if we were to have a child, I would be the one stuck taking care of it. I don’t think its fair to make me the primary caretaker of a child I don’t want just so he can say he has a child with his genes. There are so many beautiful, loving children already in this world with NO parents, so why can’t I give them my love? I have some hard choices to make in the next few years while I can still be a “young mother”.

Aug 17, 2008, 07:04PM PDT | 2 cheers


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Lise1509 is trying to study...

I agree with you. I’ve always thought it is kind of selfish to have a biological child (just to see who’s eyes it will get or whatever) when there are so many children alone in the world who really need all the love and care you are willing to give them.
Maybe you could change your husband’s mind, by trying to show him how you could change a kid’s life by adopting, and how sad it is not to have a home when you’re just a child (I remember that was my worst nightmare when I was a child).
Get him to watch touching movies with orphans, etc, or books.

Don’t give up, it is wonderful that you think this way, if only more people were like you.

Aug 19, 2008, 03:16PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Becky stressed over school

Thank you

Thank you! As soon as I get a new job (need the $$ to do this), I intend to sponsor a child and show him how we’re making a great difference. I think he also needs to be working in the field he is interested in before he can seriously think about children….I really do appreciate your support. All the best with your other goals, it seems we have many similar ones!

Aug 19, 2008, 06:24PM PDT | Respond to this

Seloa is sort of through the top of her list... just how to go about closing

I hope you get your wish with this because it sounds like you want to do it for all of the right reasons.

I totally understand the health problems issue. I’m adopted and my mom tells me stories about how she and dad would list all of the things bad about his side of the family that I missed out on.

I hope you get your wish and show some special munchkin how much you love them.

Jan 05, 2009, 12:24PM PST | Respond to this

kayakheather

Don’t give up. I wanted to adopt for 10 years but my Husbands heart was not in it. Well two years ago his heart changed and we brought home Vietnamese twins a year ago. He is the best Dad to them(Better then he was to our bio kids). We both agree it is the most profound thing we have ever done. We have now agreed all future children will be added to our family through adoption.

How old is your Husband? Sometimes it just takes the wisdom of age to realize these things. You are just wise beyond your years. I wish you great luck in the future with your adoption.

Jan 09, 2009, 02:24PM PST | Respond to this


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