Over the last few years we have had a lot of problems, but I feel like we have really made tons of progress in the past few months. We are communicating more openly and I am being more truthful with him about everything. He is helping me with the finances and we have a definate plan to get out of debt. That is where most of our problems stemmed from and with that in the open we are doing much better. I think I can now safely mark this as DONE!