cofiboi is trying to be a grownup
people commit to a relationship for a lot of reasons.
and one of the most common reason is: security
because going through life is crazy enough and sometimes we need someone or something to help us keep our sanity.
when we were kids, we had security blankets, our folks, our imaginary friends, our sandbox friends, we kept playdates and we went to birthday parties. things, people and events that acknowledge our existence.
when we grow up, we look to your friends, our jobs, our passion/s.
then we commit.
my relationships, romantic that is, are always based on one thing: security.
i wanted to go home every night to someone who could make me forget the day’s worries.
somebody who reminded me that i am loved and i matter.
but sometimes, security alone is a flimsy reason why you commit. there are other factors as well. like love.
can you stay in a relationship for security alone or love should always be in the equation?
what if you fall out of love but staying means that you would always have somebody who cares for you?
isn’t security a reason enough to stay?