All your comments about your ex-husband and I can relate very well, however don’t be like me and still be hanging on to his crumbs after 14 years. I married the guy 2 times; the first time in 1983 and then again in 1989. (He married a 19 year old girl in 1994 and then divorced her in 1998) I have taken him back too many times to count and each time he leaves me more empty than the time beforew. We have 2 sons that are nearly grown and he spends holidays with us and then right after New Years he disappears until the next holiday or event. I’ve let him do it to me and there is no one to blame but myself…I’m educated, believe it or not, have a great job, own my own home and provide a nice life for the boys. I have just left no room for anyone else to love me because I couldn’t get beyond him and the way you sound reminds me a lot of myself over the last 23 years! I say change your phone number and move on. Erase him from your memory, else you’ll wind up like me 42 and alone because you tried to hang onto something that was never going to work.