i totally agree.

i agree, i’m all for long term commitment, but marriage just seems a little too…forced to me… people say it shows commitment as you can’t just get up and leave, because of the legal stuff, but idk, it just kind of seems like a voluntary prison… a long term relationship involves a certain degree of commitment anyway, but when you turn it from a personal choice to stay with that person to a legal mandate that can only be reversed by a court order it kind of loses it’s emotional significance. after all, then you could stay with someone just because you don’t want the fuss of a divorce, or because of societal judgment or the opinions of relatives, not because of genuine love and commitment…plus it’s not like a marriage stops the possibility of affairs, so therefore i fail to see how it shows commitment. who can predict the future anyway? i understand that no person is perfect but what if after 20 years you simply have nothing in common anymore? marriage then creates unrealistic expectations for the couple, their kids relatives etc, and puts an incredible amount of pressure on them not to mess it up. there are lots of people we meet in our lives, and i don’t believe love has to last forever to be meaningful. however, i am all for long-term commitment,however paradoxical that sounds…