You’re right…
That’s the thing that bothers me the most… I have to spell things out to him everytime I get upset. Then most of the time he still doesn’t get it and worst of all doesn’t listen but gets defensive.
I was wondering if this would be just something that he’d grow out of?
Reasons I love him?
I feel comfortable with him, I can totally be myself. He’s supportive of me, makes me feel so special (when he’s not doing something else..) He makes me feel beautiful.
He tries so hard to make me happy, and he tries most of the time to understand where I’m coming from. A lot of the time he can come back after an argument and apologise because he’s in the wrong. Which he’s starting to realise is the case 9 out of 10 times haha. We have fun when we’re together.. The biggest and most serious arguments have happened because of his drinking.
Time unfortunately, is something we don’t have… He’s american, I’m british, there’s no visa that I can get to move out there indefinately. Because he was in the marines he gets a lot of benefits which he will lose if he were to leave the country.
Moreover he’s got another 6 years of university.
So unless we have a long distance relationship (which I personally dont think you ever really find out the deeper and real person) for an indefinate amount of time, marraige is the only way to give this relationship a chance.
I wonder if I’m clinging on to it for the security, but I’ve tried to break up with him many times. He’s the one that fights for me.
He takes all the crap that I throw at him and he still loves me. He likes that I keep his big inflated head from floating away! He loves the fact that I can shut him up with one word. He likes the fact that i’m overbearing and bossy hahaha.
He makes up girly stories for me so i don’t feel so bad about the dozens of road kill we see on the way to his grandparents’ house.
Most of all, I love that we can mess about and be goofy, I don’t have to be so serious with him, and I trully relax. I spend my whole life keeping everyone happy but with him, I can just be me. For the first time, I’m comfortable in my own skin, mentally and physically.
But I suppose the question is: can the issue of him understanding me be fixed? Is it something we can work on? Will he get better as he gets older?
With regards to holding me back.. I think I can still do what I want, I can still travel and work abroad, but he just might not follow.. But I will go back to him.
Maybe one day his ambition will grow to the same level as mine.
