Picasso's Muse

stop taking things so personally (read all 4 entries…)
Having my work stolen and laughing about it 14 months ago

My old boss was really good. My new boss is not. Last week he asked to have his name added as an author to a paper that I wrote a contributing paragraph for.
1. It was a measly 6 lines to someone else’s internal paper. You don’t take credit for that. Well not in my experience anyway.
2. He didn’t write it. I did. But that’s beside the point. It was 6 lines!!

It’s so pathetic, it’s laughable!! But it does sound the warning bells big time!!! Because this is what he does obviously, and that’s how he’s got to where he is.

I am revelling in the fact that I’m not taking this personally but he won’t be getting away with this sort of behaviour with me if he tries to do it on a larger scale project.

Oct 17, 2008, 03:51PM PDT | 10 cheers


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Trauma_Junkie is going to work. Money is good. helping people is good.

you mean he wrote

a paragraph for? How horrid, would make me angry. Kudos to you for not getting wildly out of joint, though you have the right to do that.

Oct 17, 2008, 04:01PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

Bob1623 Be the Fountain, not the Drain.

Deplorable behavior

I hope you have a good plan for the next time this happens. Good luck.

Oct 17, 2008, 04:03PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

phensy all of life is a homecoming

Yes

keep perspective on the scale of this behaviour. You can overlook small scale things like this on a few occasions. But be wary of it happening often, or as you say on a bigger scale.

Kudos to you for not taking it personally though. Some people and some bosses are just made that way.

Oct 17, 2008, 04:05PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

in your heart there's a spark is <(((<3)))3

Don't you wonder

Where is people’s sense of embarrassment? The ability to be mortified at your own behavior? I love your confidence though, that you can and will say something about it if it looks like he’s going to make a habit of it. Were you born with that assertiveness? Did you actively develop it? Or did it just come with professional experience?

Oct 18, 2008, 05:06PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

in your heart there's a spark is <(((<3)))3

curious because

I still tend to be way more worried about not offending other people than I should be in order to speak up about these things. I have to remind myself that Hey! They’re the ones initiating the offensive behavior!

Oct 18, 2008, 05:08PM PDT | Respond to this

Picasso's Muse

I'm sure you won't be surprised

to hear that I often need to watch what I say…and I have always been in trouble right from when I was a child!

The boss and I have already “had words”. At the start of the 2nd week, he said I should have access to his emails. I said that I have never had access to my managers emails in the past and didn’t think that was appropriate. He said that it meant that I could track where he was. I said that I didn’t want to be his PA. Oops! Was that too strong? Maybe… He said the next day that he thought that was a rude thing to say. I had reacted to being asked by a third party to arrange a meeting on his behalf when he already has a PA so I thought he was being rude expecting me to have access to his meetings and whereabouts when I am supposedly in a senior position. Meh. I am too bolshy for my own good sometimes. We have made up now but I am very wary of him.

I actually wonder if I just have a problem with authority. I am a people pleaser by nature and have made it a mission to be liked by everyone else on the floor. But this man is not worthy of my respect.

Oct 18, 2008, 09:02PM PDT | Respond to this 3 cheers

Elderbear is subverting the dominant paradigm. kickn' back ...

Your Boss is a Fool

The wise leader does not attempt to horn in and take credit for things. He promotes the achievements of his direct reports.

If he were a wise man, he would have cited your paragraph multiple times to his superiors, each time telling them what an excellent employee you are.

It’s amazing how much credit a person can get while seeking to give credit away.

The wise boss has several potential outcomes:

1) Nothing … eventually he (and his direct reports) go work where they will be appreciated.

2) The underlings get promoted … but now he has contacts who appreciate him. He’ll be moving on up real soon now.

3) Upper management is intelligent. They promote him and his amazing employees and everybody profits.

Your boss is a fool.

Aug 11, 02:31PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer


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