I’m a tomboy, and having grown up with the same tight-knit, individualistic group of friends, had few inhibitions about my personality. But now I’m in junior year at a new school with none of my friends around me. My childish lack of social graces has been throwing people off. I used to think that it was playful and fun, but today my debate team member (and crush) decided to set things straight. He said that my cursing was unpleasant, that I was setting a bad example to my juniors by play-fighting and getting into verbal battles (it’s part of a inner drive to always be right…) and that I should to learn to control my temper. All of this is quite true. I’m a really nice person, but because I’m bluntly honest and wear my heart on my sleeve, some people feel offended.

My sense of social charms and graces are lacking. And so I’d love to be more ladylike, while keeping my short hair and interests (e.g. football), and be more presentable (mostly I can’t bother to waste so much time on my appearance).

Here are my goals for phase 1:
+ To be more pleasant and sophisticated when conversing with others (e.g. modulation of voice tone)
+ To be more articulate and use proper speech (the ‘dude’s, ‘duh’s and cursing have to go)
+ Be witty without being cruel
+ Invest more time in my appearance (i.e. brush my hair, keep my nails trimmed and free of chipped polish, stop slouching!!)

Hopefully I’ll improve within this month.