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Delylah is gonna make it

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Well it’s been several weeks since I’ve posted. Things have not been good for me for the last 11 weeks (going through a long, dragged out breakup), and I’ve been self medicating with alcohol a lot. I’ve been eating very unhealthy, not exercising, and just basically feeling like crap about everything.

So I talked to the soon-to-be ex last night on the phone, and when we hung up after arguing the whole time, something came over me that told me that this WAS IT. I’ve had enough letting this man run my life and affect my health. I can’t blame him directly for my alcohol abuse these last fews weeks, because he certainly didn’t force me to drink anything. But I know that bad things and unhealthy relationships trigger my drinking. That’s why I need to simply walk away and not communicate with him anymore.

I made a list of all the things about him that are not good for me (alcohol is one of the top reasons), and I also put a big DAY 1 on the wall to start the clock, so to speak. I’m ready to get my life back.

I am planning to start being a regular poster here again, because it has helped me tremendously in the past. I need this support.

Thanks for listening everyone. I will check in soon.

Anna



Comments:

Welcome Back Anna!

It is good to see you again. Upon reading your post today I get the feeling that you will not be able to break up with alcohol until you have made a clean break with your ex. If you let him linger, alcohol will surely follow because you have developed a habitual pattern of medicated that exact pain he gives you with alcohol. So I sure hope you mean it when you say, “That’s why I need to simply walk away and not communicate with him anymore.”

Even in that statement you say you “need to simply walk away” instead of saying you are “going to” walk away. It concerns me because many people know things they need to do, and yet they don’t do it. I get the feeling that part of you is going to have a very hard time walking away and making a clean break. Especially because I presume this is the same man you were “breaking up with” weeks ago last time you were posting. I hope you will be able to do it this time though because like I said, it seems unlikely that you will have success quitting drinking, and the unhealthy eating and other things on your list, until you are able to make a CLEAN BREAK from that relationship.

Good luck to you. You have my support once again and I am glad you are here to make some positive changes for your life!

~Josh

Delylah is gonna make it

Clean break

Hi Josh, thanks for your kind words. I actually had not thought of things that way before, but now that I read your post, I realize that you are spot on. I HAVE to make a clean break and cut all communication. Let me rephrase my original statement “That’s why I need to simply walk away and not communicate with him anymore” to “That’s why I am going to simply walk away and not communicate with him anymore.”

I am weak, and this is not the first time I’ve said that, but I absolutely have to make it true this time. I’m drinking because I’m hurt, and I’m hurt, so I’m drinking. It’s a vicious cycle. I can’t stop drinking if I prolong the hurt, and I can’t get over the hurt if I keep drinking and making myself more and more vulnerable and unhealthy.

Well, this is Day 1, and I have not had any contact with him (nor have I had anything to drink). Tomorrow is Day 2, and I will update the sign on my wall as soon as I get up in the morning to remind myself.

Thanks again Josh. I really needed to hear what you said. :-)

Anna

BRAVO!!

You’re welcome Anna! I am glad you needed to hear what I said. :)

From what I have read from you, your chances will be so much greater if you do a clean break and so slim if you don’t. You really sound good, strong, self aware and ready to meet the challenges ahead of you, especially in this more affirmative reply!

I am excited for you and you know you have my support once again! I look forward to hearing about your day 2, 3, 4, etc. Be sure to post if you need some additional support, to just keep us updated, and to provide a living journal for you to reflect on where you have been, how you felt, and where you want to be.

~Josh


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