For the record, I’m adamant that you should personally choose your own drum if at all possible. I feel it’s very important to “meet” the drum that’s right for you.
That said, I was very upset when my boyfriend told me he’d ordered me a drum off the internet b/c I was too stressed and needed to start drumming again as an outlet. when the drum came, i didn’t even want to see it, told him to send it back. BUT he convinced me to at least give it a chance, and i have to admit, i do like it. The decoration is a bit cheesy, and i would have chosen a thicker head, but we get along just fine, and i’m not sending her back.