Marriage isn’t magic! Do all the hard work of marriage BEFORE you get married — it’ll be 10 times harder if you wait until after. Talk about every possible argument you can think of. Resolve as many things as you can in advance. Set up conflict resolution schema so that when tempers rise, arguments don’t have to follow. Never talk about a grievance when it’s fresh. Always apologize first — even if you’re the one wronged, find something to apologize for; it will help you approach your wife/husband with a humble heart. Never stop working hard for her/him. Learn to thank your wife/husband for letting you do things for her/him. Don’t let the sun set on your anger. Pray together. Pray for each other. Give preference your wife over yourself.