sicktotheheart is disappointed. Truly, truly, truly.

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I know it's not 13 months ago

accurate to “diagnose” yourself, but more and more I suspect I have an avoidant personality. I want to connect with people, but I simply cannot. Lately I feel like I have no personality, or no aspect of it worth showing to people. I feel like this black hole of miserableness. I’m convinced I come off as odd and people think I am weird and sad and they pity me, and it’s painful to realize.



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sicktotheheart is disappointed. Truly, truly, truly.

I think you're right

the disorder labels simply serve to reinforce the idea that there is something “wrong” with you, which isn’t very constructive. It’s hard to shake the feeling that there is something wrong with me though…sometimes giving it a name makes it feel more conquerable, other times it feels like making up excuses….

Ken Chen Trying to keep my desk clutter at a minimum

Trust...

Between my teenage years and before adulthood was quite a thorny path for me, one day I stumbled upon a book called “An unquiet mind” and I bought it out of impulse, it was the story of a doctor struggle with bipolar disorder, that was the most “enlightened” conversation (by way of her narrative) I could’d have with someone. Told me a lot about why I was me that nobody was able to explain myself. In a time where labels where very bad I’d learn since a child to hide so well my true feelings I thought everybody did the same until I read the book and found there were other options.

I mirror every word you had wrote, I felt the same way many times and even sometimes now, but that “thorny path” made me the person I’m now as an adult, and I’m very proud of it, and like it very much, I don’t feel bitter because life wasn’t easy, it was just being a little harsher for me to become what I am, otherwise, I wouldn’t be me and I think I wouldn’t have loved to be “normal” hahaha.

It may sound silly but, “Love yourself first in order to love others” is the key out of this side of darkness, you’ll shine with your own light and would find you complement others and others complement you but they don’t define who you are.

Have my blessings and a big hug from overseas!

Hope you’ll find yourself 10 years from now watching a sunrise, feeling joy and giving Life thanks for its wisdom.

Ken


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