I still can’t quite figure it out: is MY self-consciousness really a result of me thinking too little of myself, or could it actually be that I think too much of myself? In the earlier years, I’d’ve said, sure, I have self-esteem issues. These days, I’m opening up to the possibilty that I may just love myself soooo much that I hate the very thought of being scrutinized by other people. If people scrutinize you, they can find fault, right? Maybe I like living in a fantasy world in which I have no faults. So, I’m on the defence: trying constantly to either defend my idea of a perfect self (which makes me a little paranoid), or to avoid situations that puts my self up for close observation.
Though most people’d fall for the whole shy-guy thing, all my closest friends agree: I’m a bit on the egocentric side. While I have no problem with being conceited, though, I AM tired of being afraid to be myself around people. I already know how great a guy I am, I just wish I could share it.
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crazed73 is battling insomnia with 43things
You may be over-analyzing this a bit. Ironically, while trying to help I just passed a judgment. (sorry) I think the important thing is to separate self-esteem from being self-conscious. I believe it is based more on communication than anything. Just pretending that you don’t give a damn what people think can actually train your mind to start believing it. It starts with little acts of boldness. I did this. I think by becoming less self-conscious, I helped my self-esteem- not the other way around. Good luck- I wish you the best.
i know how you feel
I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I can’t be myself because people may not like me. But I guess the best thing to do is to be yourself. If the person doesn’t like you, work out why. And then decide if it is worth changing or adapting to other person? If yes, then improve. If no, then be yourself and be happy!
Like sometimes I feel I don’t show interest in people much because I am always interested in things relevant to me or things about me. I try to show interest in people’s lives because I feel they will do the same back to me. But if I feel that person really bores me…. then so be it. I can’t help it that they are boring!
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:)...I like your comment
Not everyone is going to be liked or likeable by everyone…but I liked here that you mentioned you can find out why someone doesn’t like you & you can choose to change if it is worthwhile. Because there might be something you can improve about yourself that would make you a better person. But, if a person doesn’t like you for no specific reason then it isn’t even worth bothering about. There are other important things to focus your energy on.
Not everyones chemistry or interests are totally alike….we are all unique & what makes us different is great too.
I also believe that if you truly just be yourself no matter what or who is around then you are being yourself & will attract the right sort of people towards you.
Heaps of cheers…:) Thankyou for sharing this.
