I found that using a vibrator helped me to identify exactly where I needed stimulation, in order to have an orgasm. I was in my early 20s and hadn’t yet had an orgasm. I became discouraged and finally bought a vibrator; that did the trick. I discovered exactly where I was most sensitive and needed the most stimulation, after which I was able to orgasm regularly with oral and manual stimulation and during penatrative sex. It might be worth a try.

I am now married and have also encouraged my husband to continue doing whatever he is doing when I begin to have an orgasm. I noticed that often, when I began to have an orgasm, he would think that his work was done and immediately change positions or shit around, cutting short my orgasm. Stopping that really improved the strength and quality of my orgasms. Perhaps you and your partner have a similar problem. . .

I hope my tips help.

Cheers,

Deb

Man I’m suprised every guy on 43things hasn’t bought a plane ticket and posted 50 comments on this page citing credentials. Sorta opened up the proverbial flood-gates.

mind numbingly explosive. yeah those are good. real good.

bondage is always fun, baby oil is hot, in public can be hot….

I suspect you are in the wrong continent, but if not I would love to help. Certainly i seem to have a bit of relevant experience. In any case best of luck…

P.S. I assume you have succeeded by now, but as it is still up as a goal I am chipping in.

P.P.S. Would you be interested in eitehr of the things I have asked for volunteers for?

If you haven’t reached this goal yet I’d be happy to try and help.