I was visiting a friend recently, and she kept criticising the guests in the next room! I was afraid they could hear her. I realized that, being as critical as she was, she’d be criticizing me as soon as I left. (or maybe if I went to the bathroom, or tne next room…)
I didn’t like it, but I also saw myself in that; not that I could ever judge others to such an extent, but being critical is one of my weak points. I realize that critical people tend to be insecure, fearful, and lack joy in their lives many times, because they bring out the negativism from their hearts.
so, i began to quit judging others in my thoughts. If a thought occured to me that was negative about somebody, I immediately started excusing the person. Before my thoughts became words, they were diffused by my forgiveness, or by making allowances for people’s ‘faults.’ I think it has helped me a lot.