I spend way too much energy being frustrated with other people. I tried this exercise from The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra:
Make a list of three people whom you intensely dislike, disapprove of, or have had strong conflicts with. Put down four qualities for each that you find the most offensive.
For each trait say “I acted like this when I…”
Of course what we hate most in others is what you most strongly deny in yourself. And my “detested qualities in other people” ran along a trend: selfish, defensive, self-absorbed, loud, egocentric.
Hrm.!